Reflections on Gratitude

One of the things I’ve noticed is the recurring themes in the readings I do at each fair. The last one was all about how life can change on a dime. Your relative leaves for the day and doesn’t come home, how an oxygen tank and a space heater engulf their home, or how you take your dad to the hospital, they are set to be discharged in the morning, and then pass away during the night.

All tragic and leave the people they love with devastating grief and questions. Why them? What could I have done to fix or stop it? What do they want me to do with all their stuff? How do I live without them? What do I do now?

That’s why it’s so important to fix things between those we love sooner rather than later, because time has a way of getting away from us. It’s also a reminder to focus on what’s truly important, to cherish the good times, and to tell our loved ones how much they mean to us in the moment.

The biggest thing I hear from both clients and those who have passed is about their regrets. It’s rarely about the things they did say but the things they didn’t. It’s also about the wishes and dreams that they didn’t pursue, the ones they thought they would do tomorrow, after they accomplished X, or when they had enough money. If you only had a year left, what would you spend your time doing, and who would you be spending it with?

I’ve also seen many families divided based on politics lately. When surveys and polls are done of what’s really important to people with different political backgrounds, the answers are surprisingly similar. They want their family to be happy and healthy, they want to pay their bills with a little extra for savings or splurging, and they want a good-paying job that makes them feel like what they do matters. How these things all come together is different for everyone and every family. What’s important to remember is: if your loved one died tomorrow, is the thing you are fighting about worth it, or will it seem petty?

I’m not saying to let toxic or dangerous people into your life. It's that with all the rhetoric we are subjected to daily, a good question to ask ourselves is: are they really toxic, or have you fallen in the trap of noise that encourages rage, name-calling, and believing that anyone who disagrees with you is the enemy? All of this, BTW, is all done for ratings, clicks, or likes, to keep coming back for more, not to keep you “informed.”

What the Spirits told their loved ones was to remember the good times they shared, to get rid of their belongings (you don’t need stuff to remember me), and to say, "I love you." If there was something between them, they said, "I’m sorry for hurting you", and "I forgive you." Thank you for being my mom, dad, sister, friend, son, and daughter. Remember me for who I was, not how I died. They want you to live your life and be happy, not be a shell of the person you once were or turn the house into a mausoleum. What they show me is the gratitude for their lives. Even in the most miserable of circumstances, you can find something to be grateful for.

Here are some other things Spirits have told me to be grateful for:

• Paying bills - You GET to pay them, rather than HAVE to. These things give you the comfort of a roof over your head, a car to get you places, heat to stay warm, phone and internet to stay connected, electricity to make your lives easier, and clean water to drink.

  
  

• Stiffness in your body— It’s a reminder to move your body more so you live longer and happier.

  
  

• Food. Thank the items on your plate for giving you nourishment and enjoyment.

  
  

• Any income: You have money to pay for your needs, so you can live and enjoy your life.

  
  

• Family- They brought you into the world and can be your greatest teachers or supporters.

  
  

• Friends- they bring light, love, and support into your world.

  
  

• Pets and Children: They remind you what forgiveness, love, and true joy look like. They love us even when we mess up.

  
  

• If there is something you need and are coming up short, thank the Universe in advance for supporting you in whichever way you need.

Gratitude is a high vibration energy and brings more of that energy to you. Your guides want to focus on what’s going on right with your life, rather than what’s going wrong. You might be surprised how much richer and fuller your life will feel.

As we enter the Thanksgiving season, remember to invite those who have transitioned to your gatherings. They want to talk and be with you as much as you want to talk to and be with them. Talk about the great memories you have with them, and if there’s room, set a plate at the table for them. And then thank the Universe for all the great things you have in your lives.

Please share what has worked for you, supporting and cheering each other on. Note: The comments section is at the very bottom of this page.

Where you can find me:

Classes at Aims:

Meet Your Spirit Guide | Feb 7-Feb 21, Saturdays | 9-11 am | Greeley

Clairs 1 | March 25-April 29, Wednesdays | 6-8 pm | Loveland


Fairs:

BMSE Chicagoland-Northlake. Midwest Conference Center 401 W Lake St, Northlake, IL 60164, March 07 and 08, 2026. Saturday 10 am to 7 pm, Sunday 10 am to 6 pm. Booth 06.

The Art & Soul Events 2026 at Douglas County Fairgrounds, March 28 and 29, 2026, Saturday 10-5, Sunday 10-4.

BMSE Denver Fall Fair from April 24-26, 2026, Fri 1 - 9, Sat 10 - 7, and Sun 10 - 6 at the National Western Complex Expo Hall. Booth 54.

Until next time,

Leanne Psychic Medium