Many people in the United States make New Year’s resolutions only to drop them by February. Part of this is because our hearts aren’t into them, they are what we think we "should" want, or because our resolutions are vague or unrealistic, like:
losing weight,
exercising more,
finding a partner,
getting healthy,
stopping drinking, eating sweets, or spending money
paying down credit card bills.
When you set goals or resolutions, they should be:
measurable
observable, and
performed within a specified (and reasonable) amount of time.
Even when goals are specific, such as “I want to lose 10 lbs,” the key question is, why do you want to lose 10 lbs? Is it because:
You think you should?
Everyone's doing it?
You want to get back into some clothes you felt great in?
Or because you want to be healthier?
Your motivation to make a change is a huge part of whether or not you succeed. If you are making changes for others, feel like you should, or have unrealistic goals, you will likely fail.
A few years ago, the Angels had me think about what I wanted to focus on that year. It could have been anything: boundaries, making connections, focusing on health (physical and mental), getting out of debt, decision-making, procrastination, traveling, etc.
One year, I chose to focus on boundaries.
Yikes! That was a year to remember!! The universe created all kinds of situations in which I needed to set boundaries. It was a tough year, but also very necessary. I learned that I didn’t have to write 300-word texts about my feelings when “please don’t do that again” or "that wasn't cool." would have sufficed. I also learned that if I had to keep setting boundaries with people over and over again, they weren’t my people.
Sometimes, I felt like I wouldn’t have anyone left in my life. What I learned later was that those people had to leave, to make room for people who were more loving, supportive, and accepting of who I am. The biggest lesson I learned was that relationships need to be two-sided, not just one.
One year, I chose my health. I got blood work back that showed that my blood sugars were too high. I knew it wasn’t a health issue as much as a "Monster" issue, as in, drinking way too many of them. Shocking that pounding down 54 grams of sugar multiple times a day would be bad for me??
Sure enough, when I cut out the energy drinks and I got tested a month later, my blood sugar was almost back to normal. Funny how your body goes back to normal when you treat it better... This was also a push to get off the couch and start walking. My goal was to walk at least 10 minutes a day, 5 days a week. I kept track of it on my fridge. I knew if I set an aggressive goal, like 30 minutes, I'd never end up following through. Everyone has 10 minutes, that's walking around the block once. Most importantly, I felt better in my body. Another nice side effect is that I met other walkers in my neighborhood and made some great friends.
It's also okay to find out that your goal isn't what you really need at this time. One year, I wanted to focus on finding a partner. I ended up realizing that I needed to work on myself and my beliefs about relationships first. I had a lot of baggage from previous relationships. In order to call in my person, I had to get my house in order first or I would keep attracting the kinds of people that I didn't want in my life.
Okay, so how do you get started on your theme for the year?
Answer the question below. And list all the things that would make your heart sing (not the things you think you should want). Here are some things I have said to myself:
"Wouldn’t it be great if*…."
I paid down all my credit card bills in 3 years or less.
I went to Ireland with a friend.
I made more like-minded friends.
I made $5,000 a month, every month, working 4 days a week.
I created a new class for spiritually minded people.
I tried something new every week.
I mended fences with my _______(friend, family, neighbor, former spouse).
I only ate processed foods two days a week.
I walked 10 minutes a day, 5 days a week.
I learned to say “no” when I mean no. (Helps with people-pleasing and setting boundaries)
I asked for help when I needed it rather than trying to do it all on my own. (Getting therapy, letting others give to me, instead of doing all the giving)
I let people help me when they offer.
I accept every invitation. (To get me out of the house and meet new people)
I say “hi” to everyone I meet. (Being willing to get out of my shell)
Then when you look at your list, your theme (connection, self-care, boundaries, integrity, travel, creativity, trying new things, health, spending...) will become obvious. This isn't a sprint, you have a whole year to make progress toward your theme. Hold yourself accountable by writing it down daily (regularly), asking a friend to do it with you, or setting a timer on your phone to remind you.
So, what will your theme be this year? I’d love to hear your thoughts below.
I would appreciate it if you could share the things that have worked for you, supporting and cheering each other on. Note: The comments section is at the bottom of this page.
Until Next Time,
Leanne Psychic Medium
*I got this saying from a tapping solution event several years ago. I wish I knew who to credit.
Upcoming Events and Classes:
Anyone can do these things on their own, but sometimes we enjoy practicing with others like us. I am offering the Awakening Your Intuition Through the Clairs 2 course at Aims in Greeley from February 2 to March 12, 2025. I will also be running a Beginning Mediumship class from March 29 to April 12, on Saturdays, from 9 to 11 AM, and another session of Awakening Your Intuition Through the Clairs at the Loveland Aims campus. Additionally, I will be present at the Belu Olisa Fair at the Ranch on March 15 and 16, 2025, from 10 am to 5 pm both days.
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